This is how it usually goes. I get excited about an idea. I plan what I’m going to do and tell people all about it. It’s going great. I’m on fire… and then I go to start. And then I go and eat something and come back to start. And then I check my emails and then I come back to start. Argh! Classic procrastination.
Whenever we step out of our comfort zone and do something new and important all sorts of uncomfortable feelings can come up. We start to doubt our ability, our worth and get really stuck in procrastination. But instead of getting caught up in these feelings and doubts, we can instead see them for what they are – part of the process. Or as I like to call them, process feelings.
Process feelings are completely normal. We aren’t alone, anybody in the same situation would (and does) feel them. And the more important the change is to us, the bigger the process feelings are likely to be.
When we dig a bit deeper, making a change is usually about wanting a different kind of feeling – a result feeling.
We might want to feel accomplished, or satisfied, or sexy, or happy, or energetic. But in order to feel the result feeling, we have to go through the process.
And the secret to doing this is knowing that we can not wait for the process feelings to go away.
The only way process feelings will go away is by:
a) giving up or
b) keep taking action towards your goal (moving through the process feelings).
If the result is important to you then I really hope you choose option b.
So, here are 5 (simple but not necessarily easy) steps to help you to work through the process feelings:
- Stop and take a few deep belly breaths
- Remind yourself that there are literally millions of people in the world that also feel what you’re feeling
- Send all of these people a heart-felt wish for moving through their process feelings
- Take the next step towards your result, despite the process feelings
- Repeat step 4 until you achieve your result (and get to bathe in the result feelings – ahhhh!)
I would love to hear from you, when have you achieved a goal despite having uncomfortable process feelings?
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