In this age of information overload and instant gratification, it’s not uncommon that we feel overwhelmed. We wake up to 52 emails in our inbox, each demanding our attention or action.
What to do?
Don’t fight fire with fire
First step is somewhat counterintuitive.
Instead of amping up the effort to multi-task and check everything off the list – which actually scatters your attention and make your less effective – put a stop to everything and get clear on what’s important for you.
It is particularly challenging for the “overachievers” who default to the “do, do, do” mode. When “getting more done” is the comfort zone, we may have to stretch ourselves by being still so we can let creativity and inspiration to flow through.
You may have to go slow for a few days (or weeks!) and do some inner work to get the clarity. This is critical and will serve as the guiding light so you can act with discernment.
Clarity, Discernment and Discipline are the foundation to cut busywork and focus your time and effort in doing what matters.
“People are remarkably bad at remembering long lists of goals… the longer their lists of to-dos and goals, the more overwhelmed and off-track they got. Clarity comes with simplicity.”
Every week or two, set aside time to identify your top 3 – 5 priorities. Then every morning, or the evening before, list out 1 – 3 things for each one of your priorities you want to accomplish for the day. And make those tasks or activities your priority. Do them first, and the rest is gravy.
YOU are the priority
When we default to the “go, go, go” mode, we often forget our own needs – physical, emotional and spiritual.
It may be fine in the short term, e.g. you are cranking for a launch. But definitely not sustainable in the long run because you will burnout and lose sight of the most important piece in your business – You!
Never ever compromise your own self-care, or whatever you need to do to stay balanced and healthy. For many (particularly women) who are conditioned not to be “selfish”, it is a huge mindset shift.
Most of the time, many items on our “to-do” list are not even for ourselves! We have a tendency to say “yes” to (almost) every request that comes our way, eating up the precious 24 hours we have in our day.
We have to understand that we are our most valuable assets, and that we don’t have to validate our worth with how much we do FOR others.
We have to get over our fears of not being liked, loved or accepted if we put ourselves first. We have to know that if we take good care of ourselves we can be a better person for the people and vision that truly matter to us.
“I know that each of us has much to do. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed by the tasks we face. But if we keep our priorities in order, we can accomplish all that we should. We can endure to the end regardless of temptations, problems, and challenges.”
~Joseph B. Wirthlin
When we get our priority straight, have the clarity of what we want to do and how we want to be, we can exercise discernment to identify the things that we say “yes” to, and have the discipline to saying “no” to activities that don’t serve us.
Over to you – share in the comment below what tasks and your activities on your to-do list are not contributing to your goals and success? What can you do today to start removing them from your “obligations”?
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